Worried About Lockdown? Us Too.

For those of you who read my blog on a regular basis (shout out to Mum and Dad), will know that this blog is all about promoting the mental wellbeing of my readers by offering inspiring real life content and motivational pieces.

In the flesh, I’m no different. Unsatisfied unless I’ve done something productive in my day, I try and encourage mental wellbeing in both myself and my partner Darren. However, sometimes I need help and Darren, his sister Louise and my family have all been there to support me in this difficult time.

It goes to show that everyone needs help from time to time and just because your friend or family member seems to have their life in order, things may not always be as peachy as they appear.

I have worries and concerns everyday about a whole host of things, mainly financial due to losing my full time job as a product lister for an eCommerce brand, but I do my best to plod through. We deal with the hand we’re dealt and although sometimes it feels like a lot of others have landed on their feet where I keep stumbling and falling over, I keep moving forward because that’s all I can do.

However dark things may seem at the moment, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Watching Darren progress at learning the ukulele and seeing the chord progression finally click in his brain yesterday was super encouraging and I am so proud of him.

It’s definitely true that other people’s energies reflect onto you and vice versa and as we carry on like the good Brits we are, I do feel hopeful, regardless of my worries. We will return to our new normal one day but for now, we should be making the best of things.

Things will have a habit of working themselves out, we just have to believe it so.

Until next time.

Starting A Business? 😅

Last week, if you’re a regular reader of the blog, you’ll know I finished the Alice In Wonderland inspired wall mural in time for The Mad Catter’s launch party which was a fantastic and interesting project which has seemingly launched my own business into action.

Seeing a friend succeed in business has been enough motivation for me to kick into action and has caused me to set up RoamBlogger as a business which has been so fulfilling it is almost unreal. (Except the daunting task of filling in a tax return, that’s not so wonderful).

I have the potential for a few ongoing projects lined up for not only the cafe, but for a doctors surgery of all places and I just hope to continue in this upward momentum for the foreseeable future as I would love nothing more than to class myself as a career woman with a successful business behind me.

If I have any advice for those also following in my footsteps and starting their own business, I would advise you to get as much sleep as you can in now as once you start working and the workload increases steadily you’ll find your days will start to become longer and longer.

But oh my gosh is it a fulfilling level of stress.

I hope to continue posting regular updates on the blog so you, dear reader, can follow along with the ins and outs of business growth from the complete bottom rung, to, well, the sky is the limit. Obviously my posts will still maintain to be lifestyle oriented, so I will continue to post fashion and interior design posts, however I’ll be tweaking these to also include the business side of things, to add more depth to my content.

What do you think about starting a business? What would you go into? What passion would you turn into a career? Let me know.

Until next time.

Overcoming Holiday Blues & Spring Cleaning

Let’s be honest, no one likes returning to reality after a memorable holiday, where you’ve eaten and drunk like kings and queens, explored new and interesting places, and expanded your cultural horizons.

Normal life can seem incredibly dull after an adventure of a lifetime.

(Just look at how happy I was to be fed swordfish!)

We can feel the blues beginning to creep in as our holiday buzz dies down, the “how was your holiday” question becomes less frequently spoken until eventually it dissipates entirely and the only thing left to reminisce with are the photos and videos you took of your trip.

There will be things you’d forgotten about doing: the washing, the cooking, even paying the bills and suddenly, not even a week back home, and you’ve been thrust into chores that seem to have a vendetta against you.

Battling against the tide, you finally reach the apex, the top of the mountain and it feels blissful. Suddenly you feel on top of everything: the chores have been completed and you can finally relax for a while.

This week, I have been firmly thrust into my holiday blues and have decided to combat this by keeping busy, especially when it comes to my spring cleaning.

When you’re someone who actively follows fashion trends, purchasing clothes like you actually have money to spend, it can mean your wardrobe can end up looking a bit cluttered. The best solution: a tidy up, and a ruthless dispatch of unwanted garments.

After all, did you know that there are places that will pay you for your textiles? When clearing out your closet, why not earn a little bit of coffee money in doing so? You’re not only helping the environment by not clogging up rubbish tips, but you’re also giving to charity and getting paid for it. It’s a win win situation.

My best method for spring cleaning? A try on day.

Pick a day when you’re feeling body positive otherwise this method won’t work, especially for those body con dresses, and try on each item of clothing, see what items it pairs with and create outfit ideas with what you have.

If you have an odd top or skirt that doesn’t seem to go with anything you have, or makes you feel uncomfortable wearing it, then ditch the thing- you don’t need it, I promise. They’ll be other clothes to replace it, especially if it’s getting old or over worn.

Another tip is to look at the age of your garments, you may have a top or a dress in your wardrobe that you feel has been a staple throughout the years but the problem with well worn clothes is that they show their age and, unlike wine, do not age well.

Ditch the scraggly old baggy tees, the age old faithful, the see-through dresses.

The idea is to scrape back your cluttered wardrobe into something more manageable so we don’t look inside thinking we have nothing to wear.

I hope this post has inspired you to do some of your own spring cleaning.

For those it didn’t inspire and for those it didn’t solve the holiday blues for, maybe check out the latest deals through icelolly.com?

Until next time.

Healthy Living: Living The Best Life

Health has been on my mind for a while now, ever since I moved into my flat and finally I’ve actually moved forward in progressing my physical fitness by joining the dreaded gym.

One workout later and I’m buzzing with endorphins, ready to eat a salad and feeling energised. It’s something I recommend doing, especially, if like me, you enjoy binge watching Netflix on your days off, barely leaving the couch except to prepare more snacks or overindulging on caffeinated beverages.

While I was at the gym, I was persuaded to use their fitness machine that assess weight, hydration levels, fat and muscle content. To be honest, I was nervous. As someone who hasn’t weighed themselves in over three years, knowing how heavy I was in comparison to my size 4 friends caused a slight panic beneath my cool, confident, “yeah let’s do this” exterior.

But I still did it. You know what? I was pleasantly surprised to find my result. It was not good by any standard (I had 30% fat and only 39% muscle) but it was a lot better than I was expecting and gave me a good idea of what I wanted to achieve in the future with my exercise and healthy routines.

For those of you looking to boost your energy levels because you may be emotionally and mentally exhausted by pushing your cognitive abilities to the limit on a daily basis, it may be worth looking at building on your physical exercise levels. This energy boost will help improve your chance of success.

For the best exercise routines, I have added a few I have tried and tested below.

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/exercise/10-minute-workouts/

https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.womenshealthmag.com/fitness/amp19039331/best-workout-for-body-type/

Be the best you that you can be.

Until next time.

Dreams: The Gateway to Balance

Guest Post by Kelly Lydick

There is so much information out there on how to be or become healthy, and how to balance the facets of life. It’s easy to look at diet and exercise, or how much screen time you consume, or how to meditate to manage stress, but people don’t always think about looking at their dreams as a path to wellness.

All my life I have been an active dreamer. I’ve religiously kept a journal about my dreams and read many, many books on the topic. My long-time favorite has always been Betty Bethard’s The Dream Book, a simple dictionary-like book with a Jungian slant.

Over the years, I have amassed notebook after notebook with details on my dreams, my interpretation of my dreams, and other missives. Years ago, at the recommendation of a friend, I decided to begin studying mysticism with a Rabbi. Shortly thereafter, I decided to attend graduate school for creative writing.

It was then that I realized that the ancient mystics who knew well the mysteries of the unseen, believed that our perception of dreams was merely one of limited view—that if we were to look more deeply at the world, we would see that the waking life and the dream life were like mirrored reflections of one another. And, that peering into the mysteries of the unseen would require that we understand that waking life and dreaming life are nearly reversed.

So I started to write about it. Soon, I found that my master’s thesis was already underway, this study of the mysteries of the universe at the helm of a ship, which I certainly was not navigating. I finished my master’s thesis in record time, sent it off to a publisher, and got word back that the publisher wanted to publish my thesis as a book. It happened in record time, and Mastering the Dream was released late in 2007.

Just when my speaking engagements were at their height, I started to feel tired. Too tired to do very much. My head hurt, and I was woozy. My blood sugar went up and down, my heart rate was too high, I felt out of sorts, and didn’t know what to do. I had just recorded a radio segment for NPR & KQED’s The Writers’ Block, and the next morning, I could barely get out of bed.

I called my doctor who soon thereafter told me that I had an extreme imbalance in my metabolic system. I had, in fact, been very sick—so sick that I couldn’t sleep, I could barely walk without getting winded, and my mind was feeling pretty foggy. It was one of the scariest times in my life.

And there I was those years ago, at a loss for what to do to bring wellness back into my life. So I did the thing that I knew how to do—consult my dreams. And it ended up changing my life.

My sleep was interrupted, so I dreamt little during this time, but the dreams I did have seemed profound. They were pointing the way, showing me my path, and guiding me back to wellness.

I enlisted the help of a metaphysical healer. My health started to improve, and I continued to dream and journal my dreams. I knew that I needed to dig deeper to bring balance back to my body, so I started searching for the right program to propel me forward. I was doing deep inner work on my mind, my body, and my emotions, and I knew I was ready for a breakthrough.

By synchronicity, I happened to stumble upon Denise Linn’s Gateway Dreaming™ professional certification course, and I immediately knew this was the exact right thing for me. I registered for the program, and went back to my dream journal eager to see the signs of a new beginning, a new path to balance, wellness, and health.

I started incubating my dreams, a technique I now teach to others, and began the process of inquiry through my dreams. My health continued to improve. I started meditating daily, and became committed to balanced health. I knew that the mind–body–spirit connection was the right way, and Denise’s program reconfirmed this. I continued my studies with my Rabbi.

As I continued to inquire into my dreams, I saw the outward results. I confronted things about myself I didn’t want to admit, much less change. I vastly modified my diet and cut out caffeine and alcohol, and most sugar. I continued to consult my dreams.

About halfway through the program, something inside me shifted. I was reclaiming the lost parts of myself that I had long forgotten, denied, or hadn’t yet gotten to know. My health improved and I stayed the course.

Six months later, I found myself at the end of the dreaming journey with Denise and my cohort. I didn’t feel ready to be done and I didn’t want it to end. I had come too far and made too many changes. I was fearful of what would happen when I didn’t have the support of the group. But I continued to dream, and continued to journal my dreams, and they continued to provide the answers to every question I had, from dietary recommendations to the existential.

It was a short bit of time before I started working directly with clients and their dreams, as I continued to be propelled into further training, study, and professional-level work in other areas. But it was always the dreamscape that continued to anchor any other modalities with which I decided to work.

There is something that happens in a person, when they choose to directly engage with their dreamscape. It’s a vast world, but it’s also the gateway to the subconscious, the part of the mind that often runs the show behind the scenes, so to speak. Without this engagement in the dream world, there remains a missing piece in the path to wellness. Part of the mind–body–spirit connection necessarily must include dreams as dreams reflect our emotions, are products of our mind and spirit, and act as a conduit to the world of the unseen. They are, in my best estimation, the quickest way to the deepest level of self-understanding possible. And without self-understanding, balance and wellness can be very challenging.

If you’re looking to achieve balance and optimal wellness in a holistic way, here’s what I recommend:

  • Begin paying attention to your dreams. Start keeping a dream journal, and write in it as often as possible. Look to the symbols of your dreams to guide your way. Ask your dreams to provide you with the wisdom that will support your path.
  • Create a dreaming ritual on a weekly basis. Dreams are essential for mental and emotional health and well-being. They give an opportunity to process our life’s events each night when we retire to sleep. Devoting time to your dreams will help create balance in the waking life.
  • Commit to a meditation regimen. Give yourself a break and allow yourself the time to tune in. We all have stressors in our life, it’s how we handle them that counts.
  • Tune in to what you know is true in your heart. Walk your talk, and remain dedicated to the deepest most authentic expression of who you are. Let the world see this core of you every day.
  • Ditch the drama. Healthy people do not thrive in environments of drama and high-conflict. But, they don’t run from them either. If you find yourself involved in situations that resemble a soap opera, find the right strategies to manage these situations, and reduce the impact they have on your life.
  • Evaluate your daily habits, including your diet. Junky food will make your body feel like junk. Too much screen time is proven to make people more irritable and angry. Also, determine your time wasters, and reduce or eliminate them as best as possible.
  • Take care of your mind and your emotions. Take the time you need to process the events of life and use this information to make good decisions about your future.
  • Dream, dream, and dream some more. Not just during sleep, but while you’re awake. Get in touch with the exact things you want to do in this life. And get out there and do them.

 


For more wellbeing & spirituality posts from Kelly, please visit her website here.

If you would like to submit your guest post to the blog then please get in touch at roamblogger@gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you!

Moving Home & 5 Life Hacks For Relocation

I did it. I moved counties to the Sunshine Coast, and frankly, I’m exhausted! I am hoping to create a video to show you my new home but for now, I am settling in and still tinkering with what goes where!

This week I want to address those things about adulthood that seems to scare us the most and offer some life hacks that might make the transition easier for those of you moving home.

1. Prioritise your spending.

If you’re anything like me then making your home look presentable is imperative. It almost feels like a shame to bring anything but new into your space as the current items seem dated, even if they are relatively fresh to your arsenal.

My key: Resist the urge to splash out but plan what you want your space to look like.

For example, if you have a kitchen that would suit a farmhouse style then plan to buy products that suit that style. My biggest obstacle to overcome was stopping myself from purchasing items just because I liked them. In truth, they didn’t suit the space and ended up creating a more “hand me down” appearance.

The easiest way to set a style is colour. Pick a colour pallet so when you’re out shopping you can ask yourself one question: is it using the colours in my colour pallet? If the answer is no, don’t buy the product. No matter how much you want to.

2. Storage is your friend.

I have read countless articles on how to live a minimalist lifestyle and the most relevant take-home information I’ve ever come across is to reduce the amount of clutter in your space, instead tucking it away into storage boxes that can be stored under your bed, ottomans that double up as seating.

This tip is wonderful. Not only does it create clean sleek lines within a space, but it also reduces cleaning time by at least half. Instead of taking items off a table, cleaning the top and putting them back, you can simply wipe the table with minimal effort. This is a great motivator for cleaning. If you only know it’s going to take a second then you’re more likely to do it.

3. Double up furniture purpose.

This tip is especially valid for those of you, like me, who are living in smaller spaces like studio apartments or generally just quaint rooms. As mentioned before, ottomans not only provide extra seating for guests but also handy storage for blankets, slippers, or anything you want tucked out of sight.

I found this excellent sofa with a storage chaise that is a fantastic solution to seating and space saving.

Furthermore, I also find that a lot of people purpose buy products to suit, I.e, an over the door hanger for the bathroom to hang towels and bathrobes can also be used over the top of lower kitchen cupboards for extra hanging space. This is a great money saving solution as a door hanger only cost me £4!

4. Keep on top of your finances

I’m not quite sure what I did before the era of smartphone banking!

I set a time each month, usually, the day after payday, to sit and work out my income and outgoings for the remainder of the month. This allows me to feel comfortable in what money I have left for the odd furniture purchase or impulse hair appointment.

When sorting my finances, I categorize my money into piles and jot down my outgoings, tallying the amount to see how much my total bills are going to be. Obviously, bills such as food are going to be variable, meaning that I budget an amount for this and try my hardest not to exceed this amount (so far I’ve succeeded).

When I have my total outgoings and I can see how much I have coming in for the month I can exclude the bills and examine the finances I have remaining.

Some people, my brother, for instance, has an ongoing spreadsheet. For him, and those who are likeminded, they find this visual grid an easier way to manage finance and would be recommended if you have a lot of outgoings to keep a track of, or you are running a business.

If I’m honest, I’m not that organized.

5. Finding that work-life balance.

This is something I’m still working on and I know it’s something that a lot of people struggle with. However, it is possible with the right amount of energy and scheduling.

As someone who thrives on being busy, I find my calendar, both on my iPhone and in my diary, invaluable. Setting reminders and alarms for certain events, planning ahead for social and business meetings are all points that, for me, create a more wholesome life that is more than simply going to work to pay the bills and coming home to relax.

It’s something I have touched upon in previous articles such as this one if you’d like further reading on the subject.

Life as an adult is scary. When I was younger and I looked up to people my age as I am now I saw adults that seemed to have everything together. As I grow and develop and experience life as a whole I realize that no one knows what they’re doing, nearly everyone is winging it.

Until next time.

Living Life With A Positive Mental Attitude

Life wouldn’t be life if there weren’t any ups and downs. No matter how much we plan and save we can never cover all eventualities.

We still strive for balance and contentment but in order to live a full life we need to embrace change, embrace the ups and downs that life provides.

Today I had a nasty surprise when my car failed it’s MOT. It’s an old car so it’s not a complete surprise that it needed work but the financial backing required to do so was over my budget, but still under the price of a new car.

It would be lying if I didn’t say I was upset. After paying a large sum of money for my studio flat, another large sum of money being withdrawn for my car felt like life was somehow cheating me.

If you’re one for believing in karma then you could have assumed that my receiving of a financial bonus this year led to my car costing more than I expected.

It often seems when life gives, it also takes away, whether it’s financial like my situation, or social, or even career related. What we have to remember is that our lives are an extensive list of moments. These moments are a mixture of both good and bad, therefore making it easy to assume that one moment has led to another, rather than accept life for the rollercoaster it is.

I have obviously had a tough month financially but I accept that another month I may be a lot better off. When we have bad moments it can be incredibly simple to slip into bad habits, and assume that we have bad luck when in fact we should feel excited by the prospect of something good happening in the future.

There is a lot to be said about a positive mental attitude and with that under our belt how can we be anything but successful?

Until next time.

Becoming More Successful Using Language

This week I have been learning about the Sombali language, a regional dialect spoken in the Philippines which uses compass directions (North, South, East and West) to orient themselves.

Due to this orientation, this tribe have an awareness that we who use ‘right, left’ or other directional indicators do not. This Philippine language suggests that life is bigger than oneself. For example: ‘the chair is in front of you’ implies that the object is located around our personal being as opposed to ‘the chair is south’ which suggests the object is part of something much larger than ourselves.

I wonder, therefore, if there is some increased empathy for the world due to this verbal cognitive training. After all, if we were unrestricted by our social insular vocabulary and cognitive training then surely we would be more open to the world around us? If we are more open we are more likely to learn, to develop, and more likely to succeed.

Can we adopt and train our own brains to think similarly to this Philippine tribe? I believe it is possible, and as a result of listening to others, learning every day, and treating the world with respect, we can ultimately become more wholesome human beings and consequently more successful.

What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments below?

Until next time.