Worried About Lockdown? Us Too.

For those of you who read my blog on a regular basis (shout out to Mum and Dad), will know that this blog is all about promoting the mental wellbeing of my readers by offering inspiring real life content and motivational pieces.

In the flesh, I’m no different. Unsatisfied unless I’ve done something productive in my day, I try and encourage mental wellbeing in both myself and my partner Darren. However, sometimes I need help and Darren, his sister Louise and my family have all been there to support me in this difficult time.

It goes to show that everyone needs help from time to time and just because your friend or family member seems to have their life in order, things may not always be as peachy as they appear.

I have worries and concerns everyday about a whole host of things, mainly financial due to losing my full time job as a product lister for an eCommerce brand, but I do my best to plod through. We deal with the hand we’re dealt and although sometimes it feels like a lot of others have landed on their feet where I keep stumbling and falling over, I keep moving forward because that’s all I can do.

However dark things may seem at the moment, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Watching Darren progress at learning the ukulele and seeing the chord progression finally click in his brain yesterday was super encouraging and I am so proud of him.

It’s definitely true that other people’s energies reflect onto you and vice versa and as we carry on like the good Brits we are, I do feel hopeful, regardless of my worries. We will return to our new normal one day but for now, we should be making the best of things.

Things will have a habit of working themselves out, we just have to believe it so.

Until next time.

The Life Of A Career Woman: Hectic Schedules 🤯

For the past couple of weeks my calendar has exploded, making me feel like one of the most in demand people in the East Sussex area. I’m not and I’m only exaggerating for emphasis but I, like many others in this world, am struggling to maintain a healthy work/life balance as my life is missing one vital element: time to breathe.

From the moment I wake up to the time my head hits the pillow I am rushed off my feet. For starters I get an estimated six hours of sleep a night which is not ideal as I do love my sleep and it’s proven that less sleep can actually negatively impact your day as much as too much sleep can.

From the word go, I am rushing to get myself ready and in the car, opting to put makeup on when I reach the office instead of wasting precious time at home.

In an ideal world I’d have a driver and a PA to reduce my stress levels but who has the money, am I right?

Enough is enough. Stress is one of the largest killers across the globe, a preventable affliction brought on by an over abundance of empathy and the unwillingness to say no or disappoint people.

I work a 45 hour week roughly, and have spent an estimated additional 10+ hours on top of that designing logos for my friend’s new cat café opening in Eastbourne in the autumn, as well as running my blog (which, apologies, has been slacking lately). Across my weekends I am out and about constantly, socialising and recharging my extroverted batteries.

It’s safe to say that I’m exhausted.

So I have decided to manage my time better and allow time for myself. I am going to allow for an evening a week, or even two, where I can just sit on the sofa in my most comfortable pyjamas, listen to the ambient Dave Brubeck and relax, without worrying about anything else.

And this is the most effective way to reduce my stress. Not yoga, not mimosas with my girlies, or anything else. In order to relax, I personally need to take a step away from everything, shut off and be Kirsty, if only for a couple of hours.

How do you manage your hectic schedules? Let me know in the comments below or reach out to me on any of my socials (linked on the header of this website).

Until next time.

Moving Home & 5 Life Hacks For Relocation

I did it. I moved counties to the Sunshine Coast, and frankly, I’m exhausted! I am hoping to create a video to show you my new home but for now, I am settling in and still tinkering with what goes where!

This week I want to address those things about adulthood that seems to scare us the most and offer some life hacks that might make the transition easier for those of you moving home.

1. Prioritise your spending.

If you’re anything like me then making your home look presentable is imperative. It almost feels like a shame to bring anything but new into your space as the current items seem dated, even if they are relatively fresh to your arsenal.

My key: Resist the urge to splash out but plan what you want your space to look like.

For example, if you have a kitchen that would suit a farmhouse style then plan to buy products that suit that style. My biggest obstacle to overcome was stopping myself from purchasing items just because I liked them. In truth, they didn’t suit the space and ended up creating a more “hand me down” appearance.

The easiest way to set a style is colour. Pick a colour pallet so when you’re out shopping you can ask yourself one question: is it using the colours in my colour pallet? If the answer is no, don’t buy the product. No matter how much you want to.

2. Storage is your friend.

I have read countless articles on how to live a minimalist lifestyle and the most relevant take-home information I’ve ever come across is to reduce the amount of clutter in your space, instead tucking it away into storage boxes that can be stored under your bed, ottomans that double up as seating.

This tip is wonderful. Not only does it create clean sleek lines within a space, but it also reduces cleaning time by at least half. Instead of taking items off a table, cleaning the top and putting them back, you can simply wipe the table with minimal effort. This is a great motivator for cleaning. If you only know it’s going to take a second then you’re more likely to do it.

3. Double up furniture purpose.

This tip is especially valid for those of you, like me, who are living in smaller spaces like studio apartments or generally just quaint rooms. As mentioned before, ottomans not only provide extra seating for guests but also handy storage for blankets, slippers, or anything you want tucked out of sight.

I found this excellent sofa with a storage chaise that is a fantastic solution to seating and space saving.

Furthermore, I also find that a lot of people purpose buy products to suit, I.e, an over the door hanger for the bathroom to hang towels and bathrobes can also be used over the top of lower kitchen cupboards for extra hanging space. This is a great money saving solution as a door hanger only cost me £4!

4. Keep on top of your finances

I’m not quite sure what I did before the era of smartphone banking!

I set a time each month, usually, the day after payday, to sit and work out my income and outgoings for the remainder of the month. This allows me to feel comfortable in what money I have left for the odd furniture purchase or impulse hair appointment.

When sorting my finances, I categorize my money into piles and jot down my outgoings, tallying the amount to see how much my total bills are going to be. Obviously, bills such as food are going to be variable, meaning that I budget an amount for this and try my hardest not to exceed this amount (so far I’ve succeeded).

When I have my total outgoings and I can see how much I have coming in for the month I can exclude the bills and examine the finances I have remaining.

Some people, my brother, for instance, has an ongoing spreadsheet. For him, and those who are likeminded, they find this visual grid an easier way to manage finance and would be recommended if you have a lot of outgoings to keep a track of, or you are running a business.

If I’m honest, I’m not that organized.

5. Finding that work-life balance.

This is something I’m still working on and I know it’s something that a lot of people struggle with. However, it is possible with the right amount of energy and scheduling.

As someone who thrives on being busy, I find my calendar, both on my iPhone and in my diary, invaluable. Setting reminders and alarms for certain events, planning ahead for social and business meetings are all points that, for me, create a more wholesome life that is more than simply going to work to pay the bills and coming home to relax.

It’s something I have touched upon in previous articles such as this one if you’d like further reading on the subject.

Life as an adult is scary. When I was younger and I looked up to people my age as I am now I saw adults that seemed to have everything together. As I grow and develop and experience life as a whole I realize that no one knows what they’re doing, nearly everyone is winging it.

Until next time.