Being The Best You & Encouraging Others

I found myself having a discussion about who I’d be in an ideal world if money wasn’t an option. I said that if I could buy what I liked, when I liked, that I’d be one of those women who ate avocado toast for breakfast, drank healthy smoothies for lunch, did yoga in the early hours of the morning and pole dancing lessons to strengthen my core. My partner said he’d love to take up skating again and get some sort of exercise routine going.

Our discussion got me thinking about how we could mutually encourage each other to do these things, to make ourselves the best versions of ourselves. We ended up looking for used in-line skates on Facebook marketplace and gumtree to see if there were any cheap skates going. Unfortunately there weren’t at that point but the seed had been planted so that we could keep an eye out for the future.

My partner suggested that I start getting up with him in the morning and doing my yoga then in the living room, following along to a YouTube video. The only hurdle I have to overcome in the mornings is actually getting out of bed that early and not just wasting the time on my phone.

I enjoyed our discussion, our small sharing session incited excitement and got the brain cogs whirring. It also felt like an intimate discussion, an honest expression of our hopes and dreams, albeit humble ideas. It’s these kinds of conversations I live for, these two way streets which allow both parties freedom to express themselves without fear of being judged or persecuted.

I highly recommend opening a dialogue with your significant other about what each others hopes and dreams are for the future. If both couples are willing to discuss, it’ll offer a really fulfilling conversation which I think is much needed during this current climate.

So how about it? What are your hopes and dreams for the future? How can you see your best self? Are there small steps you can take now to achieve these goals?

Until next time.

Saying “Yes” To Everything?

I’ve found someone who matches my unbridled enthusiasm for life which has meant that the past few months have been jam packed with activity after activity which has been fantastic. However, as much fun as we’ve had socialising and generally enjoying life, it has meant the day to day things have rather lost their scheduling.

As someone who likes to plan, my spontaneous lifestyle of late has been rather refreshing. It has allowed me to let loose, learn that it’s not the end of the world if someone is a few minutes late, or changes plans at the last minute. Life is about adaptation, learning to be malleable and go with the flow and it has transformed me into someone I like very much.

There’s many a film, including Yes Man, which pose the question, what if you said yes to everything. Obviously blown out of proportion into something made for the big screen, the concept is still one worth considering.

Saying yes to more things instead of squirrelling away in my flat, for instance, has led me to new friendships, and exciting experiences. Saying “fuck it” and doing it, i.e booking a weeks holiday in Portugal on a whim, is also a great conversation starter and has been the beginning of a great adventure with Darren.

However fun the adventure is, we have to deal with the monotonous in order to make way for new experiences. We can’t travel the world without fresh pants after all.

We need to balance the mundane and the exciting in order to live a fulfilled and fruitful life and if that means spending Monday evenings washing my clothes and cracking out the ironing board then so be it. There will be other evenings for adventures.

Life, I believe, is about finding balance.

Until next time.

Thailand, MMA Fighting & How To Keep Fit

Sometimes opportunities provide us with the most interesting stories, gives us chance to speak to people we wouldn’t usually.

This week, I was lucky enough to speak to Lexi Rook, an inspirational woman about her recent experiences during her career, as well as her travelling adventures.

TRB: So tell me a little bit about yourself? Who is Alexis Rook?

AR: I am an amateur MMA fighter aiming to turn professional and make a career out of fighting and competing. So, at the moment I am working alongside training full time until I can reap the benefits of being a professional full time paid athlete. I am currently working three different part time jobs to fit into my crazy training schedule.

Wow that’s intense! What makes you excited to wake up in the morning?

Life in general makes me excited to wake up. I live with my family so waking up to them every morning is a blessing. Knowing I get to train every morning, afternoon and evening also motivates me to jump out of bed everyday!

So I’ve heard that you’ve recently come back from Thailand. What was it like there?

Yes I have been back from Thailand just over one week now. It was absolutely incredible over there! I cant even put into words how brilliant it was. I stayed in Pattaya for six weeks.

I travelled to Bangkok to compete on one of the weekends I was there.

Unfortunately, I was not able to travel to any other parts or islands of Thailand as I was on a tight training schedule/regime. However, I explored as much as I could.

Pattaya is known as one of the not so picturesque parts of Thailand but it was still beautiful in it’s own way. There were the usual grotty side streets that you get in every town but there was also a beautiful long sandy beach that ran the whole length of the city. The weather was amazing, hot, sunny and blue skies everyday with the occasional downpour (it was monsoon season!).

Thai people are the nicest people I have ever met also! They can’t do enough for you, always happy and smiling, very welcoming and just genuinely happy to help.

The food is one thing I miss alot! So much fresh, delicious fruit and I ate a lot of seafood, all freshly grilled and seasoned, and SO cheap!

So you’d recommend visiting?

I strongly recommend visiting Thailand if you can! It is a life changing destination and there is so much to see and do there. The temples, floating markets, nightlife and food! There is so much of Thailand I am dying to go back and visit next time, especially the little islands you can get boats out to and I had some friends who stayed in Phuket who said it was beautiful, just like the pictures!

Do you have a favourite memory from your time abroad?

The whole experience was amazing and being there solely for a training camp made it very different to your normal holiday or backpacking trip. If I had to pick my favorite memory though I think it would be the weekend trip to Bangkok.

Our fight team went to Bangkok to compete in a jiu-jitsu competition and we all smashed it! Then we went onto watch a fellow team mate fight for the world title in K1 kickboxing and she also won! The atmosphere in the stadium was breath taking! There must have been about 30 of us all screaming at the top of our lungs, waving blue glow sticks in the air!

I was miles away from my family and hadn’t seen my family for six weeks but the team were so supportive and welcoming I felt like I was with my family the whole time. It really was an incredible weekend!

Also, Bangkok is just crazy,whizzing around the city on a tuk tuk laced in fairy lights!

The Roam Blogger is a blog aimed at improving the health and wellbeing of its readership so I wanted to ask whether you had any advice on keeping fit?

I am extremely passionate about the fitness industry and being someone who has been through a very unhealthy/unfit stage of my life I am always advising my friends and family to stay fit! I have lots to say about how to keep fit but my main piece of advice would be to be your own motivation.

Never compare yourself to anyone else.

It is very easy in this day and age with so much social media influence, to look at other people and compare ourselves to their level of fitness, health or aesthetics. Work on yourself every day. Pick one thing that you would like to work on and focus on that one thing at a time. For example, maybe you want to improve your fitness and be able to run for thirty minutes. Start with running for 5 minutes. Then the next time you do it, add another three minutes and keep adding each time until you can run 30 minutes.

Don’t worry if Mrs perfect on the treadmill next to you is running for 45 minutes, we don’t care about her.

Focus on yourself.

Last question: Do you have any advice on how to keep calm in difficult situations?

How do I stay calm in difficult situations is a question that honestly, two years ago I would not have been able to answer because I never used to know how to be calm in any situation.

Since I began training in martial arts I have learnt how to control my emotions and stay calm in any situation, especially in difficult situations.

Everyone is different, but for me, I find it best to take a mental step back from the situation and analyse it before I act upon it. Most of the time we overreact and regret reacting so quickly.

Most situations can be diffused and handled pretty well. Take a few breaths and work it out. Life is too short to be getting frustrated in situations that aren’t worth it.

Thank you Lexi for such an interesting conversation.

Lexi can be found on Instagram for more motivational fitness, travel & lifestyle posts.

I hope you enjoyed this short interview and can take away something from it, even if it’s something as simple as where to visit in Thailand, or the short fitness tips. I personally thought Lexi had such enthusiasm for her craft and it provided rejuvenation for my own.

Until next time.

Best Tips For Effective Networking

I’m going to be honest and say I’m a bit rusty when it comes to face to face networking. It’s easy to distance yourself from the people behind the screen when it’s a message on social media or a comment on the blog and as much as you try to grow your connections, nothing will make as much of a lasting impression than that of a face to face meeting.

So in order to grow a business, it’s important to develop our physical connections and network with genuine people with passions and joy for what they do.

If you’re anything like me, meeting people face to face can be a daunting experience and doing so can spark anxiety, even in the best of us.

Today I met a lovely chap, one of the directors of a prestigious company. The meeting was brief but I wanted to make a lasting impression so I told him my name and threw him my best winning smile while I shook his hand (praying none of my lunch was stuck in my teeth). We had a short conversation about how we felt like a part of a large family and a connection was made, a future contact established.

As much as I am afraid to meet people face to face, I surprise myself at how okay I am at doing so. Every job interview I’ve attended has been offered and every network connection I’ve made has been made successfully, despite my worries.

It’s something I would encourage others to do: take a leap of faith and believe in yourself. Even when the opportunities are frightening and your mind begins to run away with itself, do it anyway. Bumble through that meeting, have a few regretful thoughts about how you said one thing but should have said another, then get on with your day. You’ll have achieved something which will undoubtedly improve your business as well as your personal status.

I look forward to my next networking meeting (although I’ll also be secretly bricking it) and hope that by sharing my experiences it provides reassurance that you can do it as well.

What have you done today that scares you?

Sex Robots & Thinking Outside Of The Box

When you ask someone what their goals are, they may say something along the lines of buying a house, having children, or getting a promotion. While these are all exciting and noble aspirations they are all easily obtainable dreams, dreams that require next to no unique challenges. It therefore seems special to find someone who dreams outside of the box, dreams of being on Time magazine front cover or something equally as obscure.

Conventional dreams, such as the ones I mentioned at the beginning of this article, are often met with little to no resistance, family members or friends often having shared experiences that can help the dreamer, ease them in without too much stress caused by the unknown.

I have found that the stranger the dream, the more likely the person trying to succeed tries to conceal it, at least in the beginning before there is any proof of success. The largest obstacle for an obscure dream tends to be phrases of disappointment or denial that the person’s goal will be anything other than a failure and unfortunately, without the backing of others the entrepreneur gives up before they’ve even begun.

In order to be successful we have to believe in ourselves, we need to truly have faith that our odd personal goals are realistic and reachable.

While at university, I met a wide array of students all looking for their own success, be it a creative endeavour in a London based company, or starting their own business. Sadly, there haven’t been many stand outs from the crowd, a lot of young adults caving into their parents wishes of pursuing a more “productive” career in business, as opposed to a creative choice.

One, however, does stand out as being strange and rather unusual. Zak, a games developer, had set out to make a virtual reality that featured some steamy robots. It was almost as if the Chobits manga had come to life in the form of a business venture.

Zak, although unconventional, has taken the correct approach. Ignoring what I gather has had a lot of negative feedback from friends and colleagues, he had continued to pursue his dreams, expanding his reach all the way to the USA.

I hope he finds the success he is looking for and hope that I can learn from his confident approach to an obscure business model.

Personally, as I grow and develop the Roam community, I am becoming more confident in my writing and realising that my goal is achievable, no matter how many times I come face to face with a brick wall obstacle. I just have to learn to climb, or break through entirely.

What about you, dear reader, do you know anyone close to you who has been successful in business? What are their stories?

I look forward to hearing from you.

Until next time.