Being The Best You & Encouraging Others

I found myself having a discussion about who I’d be in an ideal world if money wasn’t an option. I said that if I could buy what I liked, when I liked, that I’d be one of those women who ate avocado toast for breakfast, drank healthy smoothies for lunch, did yoga in the early hours of the morning and pole dancing lessons to strengthen my core. My partner said he’d love to take up skating again and get some sort of exercise routine going.

Our discussion got me thinking about how we could mutually encourage each other to do these things, to make ourselves the best versions of ourselves. We ended up looking for used in-line skates on Facebook marketplace and gumtree to see if there were any cheap skates going. Unfortunately there weren’t at that point but the seed had been planted so that we could keep an eye out for the future.

My partner suggested that I start getting up with him in the morning and doing my yoga then in the living room, following along to a YouTube video. The only hurdle I have to overcome in the mornings is actually getting out of bed that early and not just wasting the time on my phone.

I enjoyed our discussion, our small sharing session incited excitement and got the brain cogs whirring. It also felt like an intimate discussion, an honest expression of our hopes and dreams, albeit humble ideas. It’s these kinds of conversations I live for, these two way streets which allow both parties freedom to express themselves without fear of being judged or persecuted.

I highly recommend opening a dialogue with your significant other about what each others hopes and dreams are for the future. If both couples are willing to discuss, it’ll offer a really fulfilling conversation which I think is much needed during this current climate.

So how about it? What are your hopes and dreams for the future? How can you see your best self? Are there small steps you can take now to achieve these goals?

Until next time.

Writing Masterclass: The Caregiver Archetype

The caregiver characters are rarely protagonists. Originally known as the mother archetype, the caregiver traits involve a motherly approach. For instance, traditionally they are quick to forgive, loving, and offer support and guidance to the protagonist.

An example in popular media includes Primrose from the hunger games, who acts as the motherly figure when both her sister and mother fail at doing so. She takes on a role as a medic and falls foul of Snow’s maniacal plan, becoming a martyr in the process.

While researching this topic, I discovered a blog that used character archetypes within their branding which was a clever, out of the box way of merging a psychology & media study within the business world. You can find the blog here for more information on this.

It’s this kind of thinking that we need to adopt within our writing, to adapt and morph existing ideologies and strategies into less used and more creative ideas.

The caregiver’s biggest weakness is being taken advantage of or martyring themselves to save another but what would happen if we used this weakness to create a more interesting character? For instance, all her life, Annabel has been a carer, she’s looked after more children than she can remember, including her younger brother. Annabel intervenes when the foster home she runs comes under attack by the local council who try to trick her into leaving so they can shut her down. The plot twist? Annabel has not been “looking after” children, but kidnapping them for personal gain.

It’s a rough idea but it proves a point, a character can seem a certain way and follow a certain set of motives but the perspective is key to revealing the real plot. It’s this variety that inspires me to write as it supplies so many possibilities for stories. The more you delve into the theory, the easier the stories appear in front of you.