Being The Best You & Encouraging Others

I found myself having a discussion about who I’d be in an ideal world if money wasn’t an option. I said that if I could buy what I liked, when I liked, that I’d be one of those women who ate avocado toast for breakfast, drank healthy smoothies for lunch, did yoga in the early hours of the morning and pole dancing lessons to strengthen my core. My partner said he’d love to take up skating again and get some sort of exercise routine going.

Our discussion got me thinking about how we could mutually encourage each other to do these things, to make ourselves the best versions of ourselves. We ended up looking for used in-line skates on Facebook marketplace and gumtree to see if there were any cheap skates going. Unfortunately there weren’t at that point but the seed had been planted so that we could keep an eye out for the future.

My partner suggested that I start getting up with him in the morning and doing my yoga then in the living room, following along to a YouTube video. The only hurdle I have to overcome in the mornings is actually getting out of bed that early and not just wasting the time on my phone.

I enjoyed our discussion, our small sharing session incited excitement and got the brain cogs whirring. It also felt like an intimate discussion, an honest expression of our hopes and dreams, albeit humble ideas. It’s these kinds of conversations I live for, these two way streets which allow both parties freedom to express themselves without fear of being judged or persecuted.

I highly recommend opening a dialogue with your significant other about what each others hopes and dreams are for the future. If both couples are willing to discuss, it’ll offer a really fulfilling conversation which I think is much needed during this current climate.

So how about it? What are your hopes and dreams for the future? How can you see your best self? Are there small steps you can take now to achieve these goals?

Until next time.

AW18 Lip Looks- A Review

Continuing on with the fashion trends from last weeks post when I was lucky enough to work with Religion Clothing, this week I would like to explore different lip looks and review the products that I bought to pair with my AW18 outfits.

As always, this blog is aimed at inspiring my readers to try something different so I hope this review will help you to choose a few new and interesting looks!

Disclosure: I was not endorsed by any of the brands on this list. These reviews are honest and unbiased. Plus, the lip products in this list were all affordable (just check out the Primark lipstick!) and realistic for the everyday woman (man, or other).

1. Sleek- Matte Me Metallic – Volcanic

This lip gloss was silky smooth to apply and was a lovely metallic pink shade which could be worn during the day but would work equally as well in the evening for a cute date night look.

The cream works like a tint and takes seconds to dry. The best thing about this lip cream was that it didn’t feel like I was wearing it when it was dry and there was little to no transfer.

2. Nyx- Duo Chromatic – Day Club

The Nyx Duo Chromatic lip gloss, otherwise known as the mermaid lip gloss, is a strange iridescent blue and pink shade that instantly creates a cooler look.

It would pair well with this season’s clothing trends and future winter trends due to its tone but I would definitely say this was a going out lip gloss as opposed to an every day lip gloss, just purely because it is so unique.

The formula wasn’t drying and left my lips feeling soft and smooth. The lip gloss did have a small amount of transfer when it was dry but overall was worth the money.

3. Primark- Lustre-Hot Chocolate

For 90p I was not expecting a lot from this Primark lipstick. However, I was pleasantly surprised at how lovely the formula was. The colour was dark and similar to that of the packaging and the lipstick didn’t feel as drying as I had assumed it would be.

Definitely on trend with this season, this darker colour would pair well with an LBD, or even something similar to my burgundy skirt from my previous fashion haul.

The lipstick did transfer a small amount but lasted a few hours before needing reapplication.

4. Primark- Get Lippy- Syrup

Hmm… once again I was not expecting a lot from this lip gloss/ lip liner Duo pack but I thought I would give it the benefit of the doubt since the colour was so alluring.

Let’s just say, I wasn’t sold on this one. Even with the liner, the gloss was super thick and bled like crazy around my lips.

It was a drying formula but not overly drying and the lip liner was creamy and easy to use.

It would work for Halloween as it has that vampiric look but as for an every day wear, I definitely wouldn’t recommend this pack.

5. Maybelline- Ultra Mat Lipstick- 15. Smoky Taupe

I was in dire need for a new every day nude lipstick and this classic shaped beauty was exactly what I was after.

It smelt absolutely incredible, like Shea butter, when I opened the lid and from then I knew it was going to be a moisturising lipstick.

I really liked this lipstick colour and especially thought the mat finish was trendy. I probably would pair this with a lip liner just purely to enhance the look but overall I am happy with this lipstick.

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Until next time.

September Favourites

September has always been one of my favourite months of the year. It’s a time full of memories, happiness, and of course, the release of the beloved pumpkin spice latte.

September for me reminds me of holidays to Portugal and Spain with my family, the blossoming of a new relationship, and the contentment from a summer spent doing things I’ll remember for the rest of my life.

This month, I’d like to celebrate the things that have made me smile, the things that have taught me new lessons or inspired me in the hope that they will also encourage a similar reaction for you.


This year has been fantastic for travelling. I have not only visited a new country (and get to peel off another sticker on my Beyond Living poster) but have also been to see adorable animals at Port Lympne safari, as well as taken a tour of the Natural History Museum in London.

The future holds music gigs in November and December with potential for more to be booked.

It’s truly therapeutic to travel, if only a few miles, to see something new and exciting. It doesn’t have to cost the earth, I mean the trip to London cost no more than ยฃ30, and the emotional reward and personal development is more than worth the effort.


This month, with the rise in bills, has also seen a rise in cheap entertainment, I.e YouTube and Netflix. So in this section I thought I would add a few honourable mentions, on the off chance you were looking for new things to watch as the evening’s get cooler.

1. JnJ memes. If you’ve never watched Jenna Marbles or her partner Julian before then what are you doing with your life? Not only are they and their three dogs (Marbles, Peach, and Kermit) absolutely hilarious but they’re surprisingly engaging for a YouTube channel that do silly challenges like Jenna’s 100 layers of makeup video. Obviously, Jenna’s videos lend themselves brilliantly to memes so if anything I’d recommend their reaction video for a great chuckle.

2. For more on lifestyle and travel, I’ve really begun watching and enjoying heyclaire who is very informative with her travel videos in Japan. Her voice is so soothing and calm it’s like listening to a podcast or an audio book.

3. Makeup tutorials. Now I’m not one for a lot of makeup but that doesn’t stop me enjoying watching other people applying it. Needless to say, Jeffree Star’s channel, especially his videos with Shane Dawson had me in tears. Not only from humour but pure realness that I hadn’t seen previously. Further to this I have also been enjoying James Charles’ YouTube channel.


If you’ve been following me on my socials you will have seen that recently I purchased my new sofa: a beautiful duck egg blue to go in my beach house designed living room.

Obviously with ups, there must be a down, so the day after completing my purchase, my bedroom ceiling completely leaked through, including leaking through the lightbulb (Dangerous!).

So damages aside, no one is hurt and it’s caused me to come up with creative ways to sleep in another room with only a mattress and a few sheets.

Hopefully September will see me sleeping non creatively back in my bedroom but for now I’ll enjoy my sleepover style living room.


As of July this year I started my new job as a Data Assistant for a pretty well known clothing brand. This has been an incredible experience as not only am I increasing my fashion knowledge but I also have free reign to test out clothing I maybe wouldn’t buy normally online.

September has seen me try culottes and now distressed blue boyfriend jeans. There is finally colour in my wardrobe other than black and white.

Hopefully seeing me try new things will help you to experience things with a fresh pair of eyes.

Final Thoughts

Thank you 2018 for being so memorable. I hope the rest of the year will continue to be as interesting and enjoyable.

What are your September favourites? Get in touch with me on Twitter, Facebook or Instagram.

Until next time.

TheRoamBlogger x

Yet Another New Adventure

The beauty of life is the ability to learn, to develop your personal knowledge into something worthwhile and beneficial for your success. If you went through life knowing the same things from when you left school and nothing additional then life would be incredibly uneventful and boring.

In order to learn, we must expose ourselves to experience, to new adventures we hadn’t had prior. I hasten to add that adventures do not have to be life-changing or expensive, they just need to hold some personal significance to you, i.e a long lasting memory or a new piece of knowledge.

This week I turn twenty-five.

I could sit and list all the memories I have, both good and bad, of the past quarter-century but it feels introspective and useless for my progression. However, sometimes it is beneficial to look back at your memories, celebrate your achievements, your development, and look at the path you have chosen in life. I look back at the years since I graduated college and am proud to say that I have developed a multifaceted skill-set, one that allows me to have an extensive list of hobbies and transferable skills. For instance, I can celebrate that I have had my work appear in two gallery openings, one at Norwich University of the Arts and another in the Oxo Tower in Southbank, London. I can pat myself on the back for a selection of gigs I have performed in front of a live audience and can smile at my evergrowing following on Twitter and this blog.

For those of you who follow my blog, or are personal friends, then you are likely aware that I have moved recently to my own flat along the sunshine coast of the United Kingdom. Since moving I have had quiet evenings alone contemplating my path and the next steps I must take in order to keep progressing in the way I want to.

The last thing I want is to become stagnant.

The determination that is present within all of us is the driving power that gets us to where we want to be and in order to ignite that spark we must absorb experience like a sponge. Dip into adventure after adventure, explore things outside of our comfort zone. I personally have begun exploring my spiritual side. I promise I’m not turning into a hippy, or am going to convert to veganism any time soon, but I am learning that there is no black and white and although I am considered an agnostic atheist, I am willing to accept that I can use spiritualist methods, such as tarot, to help guide my brain to the right path.

Maybe this is something you would enjoy reading about?

I still hope to maintain my motivational posts and update you on my lifestyle outside of spiritualism but I am transforming and changing as I age and I hope, if anything else, it will offer a kind of voyeuristic look into my personal journey, as well as offer you the chance to learn alongside me about something you may also know little about.

Until next time.


P.s For those of you looking for more content, I have just started my very own YouTube channel. For a brief look at what I’m planning for the channel, please check out the trailer below.

Home Decor Haul & My First Week In The Flat- Monday Motivation

Monday morning is the start of a new week. It’s not usually everybody’s cup of tea as it signifies the beginning of unwanted chores, such as going back to work after a weekend off, or battling with that dreaded load of washing that has been piling up gradually on your chair.

Everyone knows the chair.

The chair where clothes sit in limbo, unsure if they’ll be worn again before being washed.

There seem to be two types of chairs, two very distinct types of people who use the chair to lay waste to the days shedding. Some of us are neat, carefully folding our clothes in a trouser, shirt, bra kind of pile, whereas others of us have messy heaps of clothes that probably shouldn’t be worn again before washing, if only to get the creases out.

I’m both types of people, depending on the day. It also depends on the location as having my own place has made me house proud and tidy, yes mum, tidy.

It has been a week since I moved into my flat and so far it still feels as if I am on holiday, although that feeling is starting to fade, especially with the ever-growing responsibilities presenting themselves to me, and the re-introduction to my 5am alarm.

The previous week, although passing quickly, has been packed with adventure and given me new and interesting memories.

For starters, I bought myself a new frying pan and was decidedly giddy when I purchased a bookcase and built the unit all by myself #independentwoman.

I also bought a bedside lamp for my bedroom, a cute modern pink and copper base with a white shade which I feel compliments the room, accompanying the painting and my choice of feminine bedding.

(FYI, the Rhubarb Flower candle from Marks and Spencer’s is phenomenal).

The weekend, however, seems to be where the exciting stuff happens.

Not only did I start my first shift at the new job but I also got incredibly sunburnt relaxing on the beach with friends, and my neighbouring flat caught on fire, meaning we had two fire engines putting out a small localised flame at nearly midnight on a Sunday night.

So here we are again, back to Monday, the start of a new week, my second week in my flat.

I wonder what adventures I’ll have this week.

Until next time.